On the Fence? Why Not Just Elope?

Maybe you’ve been dreaming of wild landscapes, cozy “just us” vows, and a wedding day that feels like you. But when it comes time to make the call, something keeps stopping you.

Let’s unpack it together—gently, honestly, and with all the freedom in the world to explore your heart without judgment.

Because here’s the truth: eloping doesn’t mean settling or sacrificing. It means stepping into something beautifully intentional. And sometimes, all it takes to say yes is asking the right questions.

What Does Your Dream Wedding Actually Look Like — and Feel Like?

Strip away the pressure, the expectations, the performance.

Now… what do you see?

For some couples, it’s a big party with family and friends. But for others, the dream is far more intimate: standing on a cliff at sunrise, wind in your hair, private vows spoken in a place that moves you. Just the two of you—or maybe a tiny circle of loved ones—wrapped in something that feels sacred and simple.

The world tells us weddings need to look a certain way. But what if your day didn’t have to follow any rules?

Who Would You Choose to Be There—If You Didn’t Feel Obligated?

Guest lists are where many couples feel the most pressure. But here’s a freeing thought: you don’t have to invite anyone.

Eloping doesn’t always mean “just the two of you.” You can bring your best friends. Your dog. Your parents. Or no one at all.

It’s not about isolation—it’s about intention. Choosing who matters most and inviting them into a deeply meaningful space. Or choosing to keep it sacred, just for the two of you.

Ask yourself: if no one got offended, who would I invite? Who would want to be there?

What Landscape Does Your Soul Long For?

Let’s talk setting. You’re likely going to plan a honeymoon. Could you incorporate your dream ceremony into that setting or landscape that’s dreamy enough for you to book as a honeymoon?

When you imagine getting married, where do you see yourself? A cathedral in Paris? A black sand beach in Iceland? A chapel in the mountains? A sun-drenched desert in Arizona? A private rooftop in the city where you first met?

Adventure elopements are about freedom. You’re not bound to venues, guest capacities, or timelines. You get to choose a place that lights you up—and turns your wedding into an unforgettable travel experience.

So ask: what place makes me feel most alive?

What’s Really Holding You Back From Eloping? How to Finally Decide.

Let’s name it.

Is it the fear of hurting someone’s feelings? Worry that it’s selfish? Concern that it’s not “legit” enough? Or maybe you’re overwhelmed by the idea of planning something unconventional?

You’re not alone. But here’s the flip side: most obstacles can be flipped into advantages.

Is it family dynamics? Eloping might actually protect your peace.
Do you have budget concerns? Eloping often costs less.
Are you feeling lost? There are guides (like ELOPE, hey hey!) and planners to walk you through every step.

What if the very thing holding you back is the reason you should go for it? Think about it.

What Would It Feel Like to Let Go of the Pressure?

Let’s be honest—traditional weddings can be beautiful… but as soon as you get the ring, you are thrust into the role of “wedding planner.” It sounds good until you have a list of things you have to plan and for everyone, I promise, anxiety sets in. Traditional wedding planning come with expectations, obligations, and price tags that can cloud the joy of the day. (I blame the wedding industry for this!)

Eloping is different.

It’s not about ditching celebration—it’s about making it personal, powerful, and peaceful. The definition of eloping has evolved. Imagine waking up on your wedding day feeling excited instead of anxious. Picture yourselves fully present in the moment, soaking it all in without distractions. This is your chance to choose freedom, intention, and connection instead of pressure and performance.

So, if you’re wondering “why not just elope?”… this might be your answer.

On The Fence About Eloping? Ask Yourself This:

What is the real reason I can’t quite pull the trigger on eloping?

Is it fear? Guilt? A voice in your head saying, “This isn’t how it’s supposed to be?” Is it not wanting to disappoint anyone else over your own true feelings?

Now… can you take that reason and rework it to serve your joy instead of your stress?

Because at the end of the day, your wedding is about the two of you: your love, your story, your beginning.

Whether you say your vows on a mountaintop or in your backyard, it should feel like home – like wearing worn in comfy sweats and apple pie — home.

And if eloping even might feel like home?

It’s worth leaning in. Don’t you think?

How To Finally Decide! Take the “Should We Elope?” Quiz!

Still not 100% sure? I know we talked about it, but I can’t force you to make a decision. You know deep in your heart what you want to do, and you need to follow your heart on this one.

Just for fun, I’ve created a reflective quiz to help you uncover what’s really guiding your decision—and whether an elopement might be the perfect fit for your love story or not. Be honest with yourself. Are you sitting on the fence because making a decision means you have to actually make a decision? It shouldn’t be so scary. Take the quiz, it’s free, quick, and may open your eyes to all kinds of insights.

Click here to take the “Should We Elope?” Quiz!

Need more convincing? Want to dive into more reasons why you should or shouldn’t? Then at this point, I’d suggest you buy my book, ELOPE and read it word for word, or open it directly to page 18. I promise you will have an “aha” moment that will guide your decision.

If you’re needing to explore what “type” of elopement best suits your style, take a peek here to determine which adventure filled celebration is best!

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